Njengoko sibonile kwiposti yangaphambili, xa injana yethu isiluma okanye ifanitshala yethuAyisiyo ukudlala komntwana kuphela, amaxesha amaninzi imalunga nezinto zangaphandle okanye zangaphakathi zomzimba wakho njengokuvela kwamazinyo akho kunye namazinyo. Ngokubanzi xa isilwanyana siluma, iintlungu kumazinyo aso amatsha ziyanyamalala ngoko ke ziya kufuna ukuqhubeka ziluma imini yonke ukuze iintlungu zingaphinde zivele. Ndikucebisa ukuba ungathambi xa ujongene nale ndlela yokuziphatha, oko kukuthi, ungavumeli isilwanyana sakho silume yonke into esiyifunayo, kuba xa sikhula siyakuyithatha njengesiqhelo kwaye yamkelekile kwaye kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuyifunda into echanekileyo.
Ngokukhawuleza xa injana yakho iqala zilume izandla, Ndikucebisa ukuba uthethele phezulu njengophawu lwentlungu, ukuze aqonde ukuba ukulunywa kwenzakele. Ngendlela efanayo, mjonge kwaye ushiye apho ukhoyo ukuze azi ukuba le nto ayenzayo ayilunganga. Kwimizuzu embalwa kamva, buya nento yokudlala umbuze ukuba uyafuna ukudlala ngayo. Ukuba inja ayikulumi, ungaqala ukudlala ngento yokudlala kunye nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya. Ukuba kwelinye icala, abakuhoyi, landela elandelayo ingcebiso:
Thatha inkonkxa engenanto uyigcwalise ngezipikili ezithile. Yivale kakuhle ukuze kungabikho zipikili ziya kuphuma xa uqala ukuyishukumisa. Xa injana iqala ukukuluma, yithi hayi HAYI kwaye ushukumise i-can ngamandla amakhulu. Ingxolo iya komeleza umyalelo womlomo kwaye kungekudala izakuyeka ukuluma. Ndikucebisa ukuba ungakhankanyi igama lesilwanyana sakho xa usilungisa ukuze singadibanisi nokuziphatha gwenxa.
Olunye ukhetho, ukuze isilwanyana sethu esincinci siyeke ukuluma Kwaye ukungaziphathi kakuhle kukuzama ukuyisebenzisa yonke imihla. Xa isilwanyana sidlala imidlalo kwaye sisebenzisa amandla aso kwakhona, siya kube sidiniwe kakhulu ukuqala ukubamba yonke into ebonakala endleleni yaso. Ukongeza, ukusebenza komzimba kuya kukunceda ugcine wena kunye nesilwanyana sakho kwimeko efanelekileyo yomzimba kunye nengqondo.
Kodwa kufuneka wenze ntoni xa injana isukela inja endala ukuba iyilume nokuba isemngciphekweni? Ndiyicacisa inja yam phantse iminyaka emi-3 idibene nenjana yeenyanga ezi-3 okanye kunjalo kwaye inja ibimleqa kwaye oku bekungabonakali kuyikhathaza eyam. Nangona babengabonani rhoqo kube kanye ngenyanga, babonana. Injana ikhulile, namhlanje ineenyanga ezisi-1 ubudala kwaye inja yam sele ibonakala ngathi iyaphazanyiswa sisimo sesinye kwaye okokugqibela bebonana inja yam ifake isilungiso kwaye enye ayizange iyeke ukuyeka Ngokulunywa kwakhe, umniniyo wamtyhala, kodwa eyam yayiyi-enchilao kwaye ayisayifuni kwakhona. Ngaba ndiyabuphepha "ubuhlobo" bakhe?