Njengoba sibonile kokuthunyelwe kwangaphambilini, lapho umdlwane wethu usiluma noma ifenisha yethuAkukhona ukudlala kwengane kuphela, imvamisa kuyizinto zangaphandle noma zangaphakathi zomzimba wakho njengokuvela kwamazinyo akho namazinyo. Ngokuvamile lapho isilwane siluma, ubuhlungu obuvela emazinyweni aso amasha buyanyamalala ngakho-ke buzofuna ukuqhubeka nokuluma usuku lonke ukuze izinhlungu zingaveli futhi. Ngincoma ukuthi ungabi buthakathaka ebusweni balokhu kuziphatha, okungukuthi, ungavumeli isilwane sakho silume konke esikufunayo, ngoba lapho sikhula sizokuthatha njengokuziphatha okujwayelekile nokwamukelekayo futhi kuzoba nzima kakhulu ukukufunda into eyiyo.
Lapho nje umdlwane wakho uqala luma izandla zakho, Ngincoma ukuthi ukhulume kakhulu njengesibonakaliso sobuhlungu, ukuze abone ukuthi ukulunywa kuyalimaza. Ngendlela efanayo, mgqolozele futhi ushiye lapho ukhona ukuze azi ukuthi akwenzayo akulungile. Ngemuva kwemizuzu embalwa, buya nethoyizi bese umbuza ukuthi uyafuna yini ukudlala ngalo. Uma inja ingakulumi, ungaqala ukudlala ngethoyizi nesilwane sakho. Uma, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bengakunaki, landela okulandelayo isincomo:
Thatha ikani elingenalutho uligcwalise ngezipikili ezithile. Yivale kahle ukuze kungabikho zinzipho ezizovela lapho uqala ukuyinyakazisa. Lapho umdlwane uqala ukukuluma, yisho u-CHA oqinile bese unyakazisa ikani ngamandla amakhulu. Umsindo uzoqinisa umyalo okhulunywayo futhi maduze uzoyeka ukuluma. Ngincoma ukuthi ungalisho igama lesilwane sakho uma usilungisa ukuze singasihlanganisi nokuziphatha okungalungile.
Enye inketho, ukuze isilwane sethu esincane siyeke ukuluma Futhi ukungaziphathi kahle ukuzama ukukusebenzisa nsuku zonke. Lapho lesi silwane senza imidlalo futhi siqeda amandla aso amashaji, siyobe sesikhathele kakhulu ukuba singathinta yonke into esiqhamukayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuvivinya umzimba kuzokusiza ugcine wena nesilwane sakho esimeni esifanele ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.
Kepha yini okufanele uyenze lapho umdlwane uxosha inja endala ukuyiluma noma ngabe kusengozini? Ngichaza inja yami ecishe ibe yiminyaka emi-3 ihlangane nomdlwane wezinyanga ezi-3 noma kunjalo kanti inja ibimjaha futhi lokhu bekungabonakali kuyikhathaza eyami. Yize babengabonani kaningi okungenani kanye ngenyanga, babonana. Umdlwane ukhulile, namuhla unezinyanga eziyi-1 ubudala futhi inja yami ibivele ikhathazwa yisimo somunye futhi ngesikhathi begcina ukubonana inja yami ifake isicelo sokulungisa kanti enye ayizange ithuke ukuma lapho elunywa, umnikazi wavele wamxosha, kepha eyami yayiyi-enchilao futhi ayisayifuni. Ngiba ngiyabubalekela yini "ubungani" bakhe?