Kujwayelekile ukubona ukuthi abantu balubonisa kanjani uthando lwabo ngenja ngokuyanga, ukuyithanda nokuyanga, futhi ngaleyo ndlela inja ivame ukuba nokusabela kwayo okungafani ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba abanye bayajabula futhi bahambisane nesenzo sothando kuyilapho abanye befulathela, bekhononda futhi benza ukungajabuli kwabo kwaziwe.
Kungani abantu beqabula izinja?
Ukuqabula kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokuboniswa kothando kubantu, kanye nokuphuluswa nokugonwa, futhi ngalomqondo inja nayo imvelo yokwethembeka nobudlelwano imvamisa ukuvusa lolu hlobo lwezisho kubantu.
Sinezindlela ezifanayo zokubonisa uthando kwabanye abantu ezifana nomndeni, abangane, izingane noma umlingani futhi senza sengathi lapho sinaloluhlobo lokuthakazelisa uthando esilwaneni esifuywayo, indlela abasabela ngayo iyefana naleyo yomuntu, okuyinto ngeke kwenzeke ngoba bohlobo oluthile, ngamakhodi abo nokuziphatha kwabo.
Ngaleso sizathu izinja zinokusabela okuhlukile okuvezwa ngokukhotha, ukunyakaza kwemisila, ukuthintana kwesikhumba, ukunyakaza okunamandla, njll., kodwa kukhona okunye okuhlala kunganyakazi, kushuba umzimba, kububule futhi kumake. Isizathu salokhu kuziphatha? Sizoyibona ngokulandelayo.
Ingabe inja ingaqonda ukuthi kungani iqabulwa?
Ezinja, ukuqabula komuntu kuyisisho esingekho olimini lwabo lomzimba, esingahlangene nakancane nemikhotha ejwayelekile kubo. Isibonelo, uma uqabula inja osanda kuyithatha, qiniseka ukuthi ngeke ayiqonde inhloso yalokhu kukhuluma, izozama ukuhlukanisa nawe ngendlela enamandla futhi uzozizwa udidekile futhi wesaba ngandlela thile.
Ukuhlukumeza kungaholela ezimweni ezithile zokuziphatha ezinjengokuthula, ukukhipha izixwayiso ngisho nokudayela uma uphikelela ukukuziba. Le yindlela ecace bha yokuthi inja kufanele yenqabe ukuqabula Lokho kubangelwa iqiniso lokuthi abaqondi isizathu sokuziphatha kwakho. Uma ukukwenza njalo, siqinisekile ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuzogcina ukuhlanganisa ukwanga njengendlela yakho yokunikeza uthando nothando, ngoba lokhu kuvame ukuhambisana nokucindezelwa nezinye izenzo ezikwazisa ukuthi uziphethe kahle, isibonelo.
Kuyindaba yesikhathi ngaphambi kokuthi i-canine yakho ifunde ukuhlobanisa ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha kuyingxenye yalabo ojwayele ukubabonisa uma yenza okuthile kahle noma uma ukuvuza ngokukushiya wedwa, njll. uzovele azizwe ekhululekile ngokwanga kwakho futhi uzofunda ukuzemukela. Ngokunjalo, kungavela icala lapho inja yakho ingakwamukeli ukuqabulwa ngoba ingazizwa ikhululekile ngabo, ngalokhu kubalulekile ukuthi intando yakhe ihlonishwe nezinye izindlela zokumazisa ukuthi uyamthanda ngaphandle kokumenza azizwe esatshiswa.
Inja yakho ingazizwa kanjani lapho ithola ukuqabula kwakho?
Lapho inja ingakakwazi kahle ngokwanele njengoba isanda kufika ekhaya lakho, ngokuqinisekile iyozizwa ididekile futhi izokulahla. Ukuzwa ubuso bomuntu eduze kobuso bakhe obuncane ngokungangabazeki kuyethusa ekuqaleni futhi kunengqondo ukuthi uyakulahla. Lokhu kube ukusabela okuvame kakhulu Kusezandleni zakho uma ufuna ukumfundisa ukuthi aqonde ukubonakaliswa kothando lwakho, uyisebenzisa njenge ukuqinisa okuhle noma ukhetha ezinye izindlela zokunikeza inja yakho uthando ezingakhi ukwenqatshwa kuye.
Ezimweni eziningi lapho abantu benza ukuthi inja iqonde ukuthi ukuqabula kusho ukuthini, ingabheka ngisho nabo lapho ibona kuwe izinhloso zokumklomelisa, izobamukela ngomdlandla futhi izophindisela ngokukhotha okumbalwa ubuso. Manje, uma befika esigabeni sabantu abadala bese beqhubeka nokwala ukwanga, sekuyisikhathi sokwenza kanjalo funa ezinye izinhlobo zothando.
Kungani inja ikhotha abantu?
Lesi isimo sengqondo esejwayelekile ezinjeni ezihlobene nemvelo yazo yezilwane nokuthi njengoba zisencane ziyakusebenzisa, lezo zikhotha zinencazelo yazo. Lapho beyimidlwane nje, isenzo sokukhotha abazali babo sisho ukuthi balindele ukuthola ukushisa kanti abanye baphinde bakubuyise ukudla kubo.
Lapho bekhotha abantu kubukeka sengathi bathola imininingwane eminingi ngokuthi ubukade ukuphi, udleni kanye neminye imininingwane engabonakali kumuntu. Ngakho-ke akalindelanga ukuthi umphakele njengoba umama angenza, ngoba vele uzobe usufundile ukuthi nini futhi nini isikhathi sokudla.
Inja esikhulile efunde ukulandisa ukuqabulana kwakho njengengxenye yothando omnika yona, ingakhotha njengophawu lokuphindisela kothando lapho umanga, lapho ufika ekhaya noma udlala naye. Lokhu kuziphatha okufanayo kuzokukhombisa kubantu yombuthano wakho ukuthi bayamphulula, okungukuthi, ukuthi bakhombisa uthando nokubingelela ngokukhotha noma ngokwanga kwezinja.
Mayelana nothando nokwamukelwa inja enakho nezingane, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kaningi umngane omncane ohlekisayo wenqatshwa yinja ngoba uyacasula lapho edonsa izinwele, izindlebe nomsila. Kufanele uhlale uqaphile njalo uvimbele omncane ekwenzeni lokho.
Yini engalungile ngokuqabula inja?
Kunezikhundla ezingqubuzanayo maqondana nokuthi kubi ukuqabula inja, njengoba kukhona abahlehli abathi lokho inja ingadlulisa inani lamagciwane lokho kubeka impilo yomuntu engcupheni ngamathe, futhi kukhona nalabo abaqinisekisa ukuthi la magciwane anamandla okuqinisa amasosha omzimba nokuqinisa izimbali zebhaktheriya.
Ngokusho kochwepheshe zombili izitatimende zilungileEqinisweni, inja ingumthwali wezinhlobonhlobo zamagciwane kanye nama-virus okulukhuni kakhulu ukuthi abantu balwe nawo ngoba abanawo amandla okwenza lokho. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi izinja ziluma izinto ezingapheli ezizithola zizungezile ngisho nendle yezinye izinja lapho zisemgwaqweni.
Okwenzekayo ukuthi ingxenye enkulu yala mabhaktheriya idluliselwa isuka enjeni iye kumuntu njengoba eyi-zoonotic futhi isebenza ngokuhlehla. Mayelana nalokhu, uLeni Kaplan waseCornell University uyakuqinisekisa lokho lawa mabhaktheriya angabona ukuthi imiphumela yawo emibi inciphisiwe futhi ize ichithwe lapho umzimba womuntu uphilile ngokwanele futhi amasosha omzimba enamandla kakhulu.
Iseluleko esihle kakhulu ukuthi ugweme ukukhotha inja emlonyeni nokuyiqabula lapho eyamukela kufanele inikezwe kwezinye izindawo zobuso ngaphandle komlomo. Futhi hlinzeka ngokunakekelwa okujwayelekile okugcina ngokugoma kusesimweni, ukukubulala izikelemu uma kufanele, gwema ukubeka imfucumfucu nezinto emgwaqweni, njll., emlonyeni.