Uvavanyo lwakutsha nje lubonise ukuba izinja zanomona ngomniniyo xa yena ngokwakhe wabona irobhothi emile okwenja, eyayinokukhonkotha ihlunguzele umsila. Oluvavanyo oluthile lwalusekwe kwelinye apho lwalubonisa khona nabo abantwana babenomona ngabazali babo xa bethatha unodoli ukuyinika uthando nenkathalo.
Abaphandi abacingi ukuba la matyala mabini anokuthelekiswa nomona wabantu abadala, kodwa isenokuba sisandulela sokuziphatha okufanayo.
Izifundo ezibonisa ukuba izinja zinokuba nomona
Kwesinye isifundo sangaphambili, abanini bezinja bacelwa ukuba bayenze. Ke xa abanini beqwalasele kwaye bethanda omnye umntu okanye isilwanyana, izinja zibangele isimilo apho bacela ukuhoywa, Ukutyhala umntu ngomzimba wakhe, ukukhonkotha, ukukhotha kunye nezinye izinja zazinochuku phambi kwento ebonakalayo, ke ngenxa yoluhlobo lwempendulo abantu bahlala bekholelwa ukuba inja ingaziva inomona.
Ke sinokuthi izinja zikwaphucule isimilo somntwana.
Ngokusisiseko, umona yi Ukukwazi ukuthelekisa izinto ezimbini phakathi kwabantu okanye izinto Kwaye nokuba sithetha ngolu vavanyo lukhankanywe ngasentla, kunokwenzeka ukuba inja ifumanise ukuba into umniniyo ayinike uthando kuyo irobhothi okanye into yokudlala kwaye ikholelwa ukuba bayaphambana.
Ngoku ukuba umntu unakho ukuziva enekhwele, ngokunjalo unokukwazi ukubona phakathi kwezinto ezingaphiliyo kunye neefom. Ngokuqinisekileyo? Umzekelo, xa sithetha ngabantwana abadlala ibhola nabazali babo, babonisa ulonwabo olukhulu kulo msebenzi, mhlawumbi kunjalo izizathu ezifanayo ezibangela ukonwaba kwizinja zethu xa ukhangela ibhola. Siyazi ukuba kukho iimvakalelo ezikhoyo ezinjeni nasebantwini, nangona kunjalo kuyacaca ukuba ukudlala ibhola phakathi kukatata nonyana kwahluke kakhulu ekudlaleni ibhola nenja, kodwa iimvakalelo ezifanayo ziyavezwa.
Yintoni umahluko wokuba nomona phakathi kwezinja nabantu?
Eyona mpendulo isengqiqweni iya kuba sisazela kwaye nangona sikwazi ukwabelana ngezinto ezithile nezinja, ezinje ngezimbo zomzimba okanye nokuqonda amanye amagama, kukho ibhulorho enkulu esahlulayo, efana neyethu ulwazi lweelwimi, Yiyo le nto isinika amandla okuthetha okuphawuleka ngabantu kuphela.
Ukhe waqaphela ukuba xa umntu enomona badla ngokuveza umona wakhe ngamazwi? Kwaye bayayibonisa ngaphandle kwengxaki? Ewe, ukuba uyiqaphele le nto, kungenxa yefayile ye- Ukukwazi ukuveza umona ngokusebenzisa iilwimi kwaye sichaza iimvakalelo, kuba sithetha nje ukuba nekhwele njengempendulo yomzimba kwiimvakalelo zokungazithembi.
Ke xa inja inoluvo lokuba ubudlelwane kunye nosizi bayo bunokuthi butshintshe, iyadla ukuvelisa izimo zengqondo ezibonisa ukungathandi kwabo kwimeko eyenzekayo. Oku kuhlala kusenzeka kuba inja ikhumbula iinkumbulo ezimbi ngokufanayo nemeko kwaye uzame ukubathintela ekungenzeki kwakhona.
Ukuqukumbela, inja ayiziva inekhwele, eyona nto ibonakalisayo yile Ukuphendula emadolweni xa uziva ungazithembanga, kuba evakalelwa kukuba ukudibana nomniniyo kusongelwa.
Le yindlela esinokuthi sivavanye ngayo ukuba izilwanyana zisabela kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye xa zibona ukuba ubudlelwane bazo benzakalisiwe, zikhangela indlela yokutsala umdla kunye nayo yonke into ebuyela kwikhondo layo eliqhelekileyo. Kwaye ngaphandle kwento yokuba sele siyigxininisile loo nto izinja azinamonaEndaweni yoko, banokuphendula kwendalo, abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba banomona, njengoko isimo sabo sengqondo sifana nomntwana omncinci.