Ililela ntoni inja yam?

Ililela ntoni inja yam? Ukuba sisihlandlo sokuqala ukuba sihlale nenja, sinokuba namathandabuzo amaninzi. Sifuna ukumnika lonke ukhathalelo aludingayo ukuze simenze onwabe, kwaye ukumbona ekhala ngamava anokuba buhlungu kwaye abuhlungu. Impendulo yethu yokuqala ihlala ifana: thatha isilwanyana ezandleni zethu kwaye uzame ukusithuthuzela, kodwa yile nto kanye esingafanele kuyenza.

Kuvakala ngathi ukhohlakele, kodwa kuya kufuneka ucinge ukuba inja ayinguye umntu: ukuba siyayithuthuzela, into esiya kuyenza kukuyixelela ukuba kulungile ukukhala, yile nto kanye esingayifuniyo. Ukuba sifuna ukukunceda, Kuya kufuneka sazi ukuba kutheni esabela ngale ndlela.

Ixhala kunye / okanye uloyiko

Ixhala kunye / okanye uloyiko zezona zizathu ziphambili zokuba inja ikhale. Kungenxa yokuba akaqhelananga nengxolo yezithuthi, okanye ngenxa yokuba engakuthandi ukuya kugqirha wezilwanyana kwaphela, okanye ngenxa yokuba uxinzelelo lokwahlukana, okanye kuba besoyika abantu okanye izinto, banokukhala.

Ukuyicombulula, Kuya kufuneka uzame ukumkhupha umthambo yonke imihla kwiindawo ezizolileyo. Oku akuyi kukugcina ukwimo kuphela kodwa kuya kuthi ngokuthe ngcembe kukuqhelisele kwingxolo, abantu kunye nezilwanyana ezingaphandle kwekhaya. Njengokuba oko kwakunganelanga, siya kuqinisekisa ukuba uzolile ekhaya, okuya kukunceda ngokuthe ngcembe woyise uxinzelelo lokwahlukana.

Wonwabile kakhulu ...

Inja, njengathi, Ungakhala ngovuyo xa ubona umntu omthandayo. Ijiwuzisa umzimba wayo, ijiwuzisa umsila wayo usiya ngapha nangapha, inokude itsibe okanye ingcangcazele, kwaye itsho kamnandi luvuyo. Kwiimeko ezinje ufuna ukubhiyozela ukuba wonwabile, kodwa ke lumka, ukuba asifuni ukuba atsibe okanye othuke xa sibonana, kuya kufuneka simhoye (vele umfulathele ade adambe.

... okanye ndibuhlungu kakhulu

Nokuba kungenxa yokuba umkhumbula umama wakho kunye nabantakwenu, okanye ngenxa yokuba ungalungelelananga kwikhaya lakho elitsha okwangoku, usenokuba uziva umbi kakhulu.. Ukumnceda sinokusebenzisa iwotshi yomoya kwaye siyisongele ngetawuli ukumkhumbuza ngesandi sokubetha kwentliziyo kanina, kwaye singamgqobhozi ngokumanga okanye ngokumanga.

Ewe ndiyazi: ufuna ukonwabela inja yakho ukusuka kusuku lokuqala, olusengqiqweni ngokwesiqhelo, kodwa ngekhe umhlukumeze Kuba, ngapha koko, ekuphela kwento oya kuyiphumeza kukuba inkqubo yohlengahlengiso ithatha ixesha elide kunokuba liyimfuneko.

Ufuna ukutsala umdla

Usenokungayazi okwangoku, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha uyakuqonda inja iyakwazi ukusikhohlisa, ngakumbi ukuba wonakele kakhulu. Ukufumana uthando oluninzi kulungile, kodwa kuphela ukuba asikukhathaleli yonke enye into (ukuyikhupha uhambe, ungayenzi into yomntu, ukuyiqeqesha).

Ukuba uzifumana ukwimeko apho inja yakho ikukukhohlisa ukuze ufumane into eyifunayo, eyona nto unokuyenza kukungamhoyi kwaye umhoye xa ezolile.

Ufuna into

Ukuba ulambile kwaye / okanye unxaniwe, ufuna ukuphuma phandle ukhe uhambe okanye uzikhuphe, ungene ebhedini, okanye ukuba uneentlungu kulo naliphi na ilungu lomzimba wakho, ungakhala ukuze sikubonelele ngento oyifunayo. Kwimeko apho sikrokrela ukuba kukho into emenzakalisayo, njengabagcini bakhe kuya kufuneka simse kugqirha wezilwanyana ngokukhawuleza ukuba bamvavanye.

Njengoko sele sibonile, izinja zinokukhala ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba siqwalasele ukuze sikwazi ukubakhathalela kangangoko sinako.