Xa siza kwamkela uboya enye yamathandabuzo amaninzi aya kuvela kukuba siza kuba nakho na ukubakhathalela ngendlela efanelekileyo. Kwaye oko, ukusukela kusuku lokuqala ukuba isilwanyana sifike ekhaya kufuneka sithathe uxanduva kuye, kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka umtyise, kodwa ukumkhupha uhambo yonke imihla kwaye uzinikele ixesha kuye.
Ke, nangona sizithanda kakhulu izinja kwaye ngokwenene sifuna ukuhlala nenye, ndincoma ukuba ulifunde eli nqaku kuba, Ngaba ukulungele ukuba nenja, okanye akunjalo?
Inja ayisiyonto (okanye ayifanelanga ukuba njalo)
Okokuqala kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kutheni sifuna ukuba nenja. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba sithetha ngokuzisa ekhaya into ephilayo efuna uthotho lokhathalelo ukuze wonwabe kwaye ube sempilweni. Ayisiyonto inokubuyiselwa ngoluhlobo kunye nokuqiniseka ukuba akukho nto izakwenzeka, kuba iyenzeka.
Ukulahlwa kukushiyeka. Inja ineemvakalelo kwaye yazi ngokugqibeleleyo xa ithandwa naxa ingathandwa. Ngumntu okwaziyo ukuyithanda nokuyibona njengelinye ilungu losapho onokuba nenja.
Ixesha labo lokuphila li-10 ukuya kwiminyaka engaphezu kwama-20
Ngaba ukulungele ukwabelana ngeminyaka elishumi ezayo okanye ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-10 kunye nenja? Ngokucacileyo, awunakuze uyazi into eza kwenzeka, kodwa ngendlela efanayo yokuba akukho mntu usezingqondweni zakhe olungileyo onokulahla umntwana wakhe okanye abazali bakhe xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle, kwaye akufuneki kwenziwe ngenja.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu nenja bunokuba namandla kakhulu. Ukuze izehlo ezingalindelwanga zingaveli, kufuneka uthethe nosapho lonke kuqala ukufumanisa ukuba bacinga ntoni ngokuba nenoboya ekhaya.
Awunakuba wedwa
Oku kunjalo. Inja sisilwanyana esihlala ngokwamaqela osapho. Akakulungelanga ukuhlala yedwa. Kungenxa yesi sizathu le nto ixhala lokwahlukana kuyingxaki eqhelekileyo. Ukongeza, kufuneka sibe nexesha lokuhamba naye malunga kathathu ngemini, sidlale naye, kwaye ekugqibeleni, simgcine enkampanini.
Ukuba nenja kubandakanya iindleko
Ukuze aphile uya kudinga ukutya okusemgangathweni kunye namanzi (ngaphandle kweenkozo), kodwa kananjalo i-leash, ibhedi, iharness, iithoyi, iibhegi zestool, iintshulube, kunye nokhathalelo lwezilwanyana (izitofu, i-microchip, i-castration, ...). Ngaphandle kwalonto, ngamanye amaxesha singaludinga uncedo lwe-ethologist okanye utitshala we-canine ukusombulula isimilo esibi.
Kuko konke oku, ukuba unamathandabuzo amaninzi, kungcono ukuthatha inja okwethutyana. Ngale ndlela unokufumana umbono wokuba ukulungele ngokwenene okanye akunjalo.