Utyekelo lokucinga njalo inja yethu ibonisa ityala ngenxa yobubi obenzileyo, njengokuphula isihlangu, ukukrazula ifenitshala, ukuzikhulula ngaphandle kwendawo ebiyinikwe phakathi kwezinye izinto, kuqhelekile kwaye eneneni uninzi lwethu luqinisekile ukuba ngenene isilwanyana sivakalisa uhlobo lokuzisola kunye netyala emva kokwenza into ethi "ngokokubona kwakhe" yayingalunganga.
Kodwa ngaba inja iyakwazi ukuziva inetyala?
Akukho nto iqhubeka nokuba yinyani, ukubonakalisa ukuziva unetyala kwisilwanyana sakho kuya kulingana nokucinga ukuba unamandla okumisela umntu kwaye ngenxa yoko, uyaqonda phakathi kokulungileyo okanye okungalunganga Le ndlela yokujonga imeko ingakhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu kubudlelwane bezilwanyana zasekhaya apho inkosi inokuziva ikhathazekile xa ibona ukuba inja ayenzi ngokokucinga kwayo kwaye nakwisilwanyana sasekhaya ukudideka okuninzi.
Ngaba kujongeka njani oko sithi sinetyala?
Ngokwezifundo, oko kujongeka ikhatshwa lulwimi oluthile lomzimba yenja, apho igobe khona xa ingenisa, ibeka iindlebe zayo ngasemva, ijonge ezantsi okanye ibonise indawo emhlophe yamehlo, ifihle umsila wayo, apho ifihle konke oku kuziphatha, inesizathu sayo kwaye ayinatyala ngqo.
Konke oku kusebenza kwesilwanyana, Yimpendulo kukukhalinyelwa okanye ukohlwaywa yinkosi, kwimpendulo esinayo phambi kwakhe kwimeko apho bekukho umonakalo okanye isimilo esingafanelekanga. Izifundo zikwabonisa ukuba inja xa isenziwa iimvavanyo zokuthobela, apho abanye baye bawuthobela umthetho wokuba batye okanye bangatyanga ukutya okushiyekileyo ngaphakathi kwabo kwaye abanye bengathobeli, kuzo zombini iimeko isilwanyana khange abonise mahluko kwindlela aziphethe ngayo Bobabini baziphathe ngendlela eqhelekileyo, ebonisa ukuba naxa abanye bengawuthobeli lo myalelo, oko bekungathethi kuthi banetyala kule nto.
Inja sisilwanyana funda ukuqaphela indlela abantu abaziphatha ngayo, bafunda ukutolika ithoni yelizwi, izijekulo nezimo zethu zengqondo kwaye ke ngoko basabela kwangoko kule miqondiso, enokuchazwa njengemvakalelo yokuziva unetyala, xa yimpendulo Ukuziphatha kwethu ngelo xesha kwaye endaweni yoko kubonakale ukungazithembi kunye nokungabikho kokhuseleko xa ujongene nesoyikiso.
En iziphumo kwimo yenja Sijonge kwisimo sethu sengqondo, le yindlela yokuphendula yendalo yokoyika isilwanyana xa singohlwaywa kwaye sohlwaywe, nangona kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukuba isohlwayo sivela okwangoku xa isilwanyana singena "inkathazo"Okanye ukungaziphathi kakuhle kuba kungenjalo ngekhe asazi isizathu sokuba simohlwaye kwanaxa sinyanzelisa ukumsa kwindawo yesehlo kwaye sibonise ukuba ingantoni na, akazukuyiqonda kwaye uyakuqonda kuphela ukuba sikhathazekile kwaye uzakuchaza impendulo yakhe loloyiko. Sisilwanyana, ayinabuchule bokunxibelelana nokumthethisa, kunye nenyaniso.
Konke okuthethileyo, kwikhaya elinenja ezininzi, kuya kuba njalo Kunzima kakhulu ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani oyena nobangele yobubi obenziweyo, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo wonke umntu xa ekhonjisiwe uya kuba nesimo sengqondo esifanayo nokukhalimela inkosi, akukho zenzo zinkulu njengokucoca umonakalo.
Utyekelo lomntu loku sifuna ukuhlalisa izilwanyana zethu Ukunikezela kubo ngeemvakalelo kunye neempendulo ezihambelana nendalo yethu, zisikhokelela ukutolika ngendlela engeyiyo Kwezi, kwaye ngaphandle kokuqonda, sibaphosa kulwandle lokudideka malunga nesimo sabo sengqondo esidala uninzi lweziphazamiso kubomi bemihla ngemihla.
Ukucaca malunga nokuba kuthetha ntoni ukufundisa isilwanyana sasekhaya kwaye ukumnika olona qeqesho lufunekayo kumnceda ukuba abonakalise isimilo esilindelweyo, athobele, azi ukuba akangomkhokeli, uyayazi indawo yakhe kwaye uyathandwa kwaye wamkelwe kwisangqa sosapho.