Ngaba izinja zinokuba ne-amnesia? Ngelishwa ewe. Nangona kude kube ngoku kwakungekholeleki ekubeni babengenangxaki ngenxa yokuba babengenayo inkumbulo, inyani kukuba banayo, kodwa yahlukile kweyethu.
Kwaye ke, ngelixa sikhumbula izinto kunye neziganeko ezisivumela ukuba senze amava ethu obomi kwaye sithi "Ndinexesha elidlulileyo", uboya bukhumbula kuphela eyona nto iluncedo ekusindeni kwabo kunye nolonwabo. Kodwa njengokuba bekhula i-amnesia ezinjeni inokubonakala nangaliphi na ixesha.
Yintoni i-amnesia?
Amnesia (isiGrike "ukulibala") ilahleko yenxalenye okanye epheleleyo yememori, ngokusisigxina okanye okwethutyana. Kubangelwa ngumonakalo wemvelo (izifo zengqondo, ukwenzakala), kunye nokwaluphala kwendalo kwabo banengxaki kuyo.
Ukuwohloka kwamalungu ngokuhamba kwexesha kuya kucaca ngakumbi: iinwele zokuqala ezingwevu ziyavela, siphelelwa ngumdla kwizinto ebesizithanda, sihlala phantsi, siphelelwa ngumdla wokutya, ... ewe, sifumana uthotho lotshintsho olusilungiselela (okanye hayi 🙂, kodwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko isilumkise ukuba kusondele) kubantu abadala.
Ziintoni iimpawu ezinjeni?
Inja yethu inokubonisa iimpawu ukusukela kwiminyaka esibhozo okanye njalo, kulapho umzimba wayo ungaqala ukuguga. Ezona ziqhelekileyo zezi:
- Utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha
- Ukudideka
- Ukuphulukana nombono, ukuva, kunye nevumba
- Ukuphelelwa ngumdla wokungcakaza kunye nezinye izinto ezazisoloko zisanelisa
- Umnqweno wokuzola
- Ihamba kancinci
- Akasenalo uthando njengangaphambili
Nangona abanye belusizi kwaye benokuba nexhala, akufuneki sisohlwaye. Oko kukuthi, ukuba nangawuphi na umzuzu sibona ukuba uya esiba nobundlongondlongo, kufuneka sizibuze ukuba kutheni, kuba iimpawu zokuzola Oko ebesenza kuthi esixelela ukuba ufuna ukuzola (ngolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nesi sihloko ndincoma ukufunda incwadi »Iimpawu zokuzola» nguTurig Rugaas).
Ungabanyamekela njani?
Ngaphandle kwento esele siyithethile, kufuneka ube nomonde kakhulu kwaye, ngaphezu kwako konke, uzolile. Kungenxa yokuba inja inengxaki yokuphulukana nomzimba akuthethi ukuba ayikufanelanga ukuqhubeka nokufumana ukhathalelo oluyifaneleyo; kodwa, enyanisweni, ngoku ngakumbi kunangaphambili kuxa efuna umntu wakhe kakhulu. Akufanele umshiye yedwa, nokuba uchitha ixesha elininzi elele.
Ukuhamba imihla ngemihla kufuneka kuqhubeke; konke okufuneka ukwenze kukucotha, ukuvumela ukuba uphonononge kwaye ukonwabele ukuba ngaphandle njengangaphambili. Ukwenza ngcono nangakumbi, sicebisa ukuzisa ukuphatha izinja esiza kukunika zona rhoqo kuhambo lonke.
Ewe, kubalulekile ukunqanda utshintsho olukhulu, ezinje ngokuhamba umzekelo, kuba ziya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuziqhelanisa. Kwimeko apho sithatha uhambo kwaye asinamntu wokulushiya, akufuneki silungise indlela yalo yokuthintela ukuba ingaphazanyiswa.
Abanye bakhetha ukuyenza ibe yimbumba, kuba ukonakala kwengqondo kwesilwanyana ngamanye amaxesha kwenza ukuba kubenzima ukuhlala kunye. Kodwa oku kufuneka kube lukhetho lokugqibela. Ukuba iphathwa ngothando, iyadlalwa kunye kwaye iyaqhubeka nokuthathwa ukuhamba ngesiqhelo, inja iya kuphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo; ngesantya esiphantsi, ewe, kodwa uya konwaba, kwaye yeyona nto ibalulekileyo.
Ke ukuba ukrokrela ukuba inja yakho ine-amnesia, ungathandabuzi ukumsa kugqirha wezilwanyana ukuze akuxelele ukuba ngawaphi amayeza anokuwathatha ukuze azive kamnandi.