Akukho fomula ibhaliweyo ilungileyo ukuhlangana phakathi kwezinja kunye neekati, kodwa inyani kukuba izilwanyana zinokuziqhelanisa ngokulula nolunye uhlobo, ngakumbi xa zijonga indlela izinja ezinobuhlobo ngayo. Ngokubanzi, iikati nezinja akufuneki zihambelane. Zizilwanyana ezibini ezohlukeneyo, ezineemfuno neendlela ezahlukeneyo zonxibelelwano, kodwa oku akubathinteli ekwazaneni nasekuhloniphaneni.
Kuninzi lwezindlu baneekati nezinja Kunokuthiwa banezilwanyana ezihlaliswe kakuhle, ukuze babe nezinye izilwanyana ngaphandle kwengxaki. Eyona nto inzima iya kuba kukwazisa ikati endlwini esele inenja, kwaye ngokuchaseneyo, kuba ekuqaleni kunokuba nzima kubo ukunyanga okanye ukuvana, kodwa yonke into ngumba womonde.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuzo zombini ezi meko kukuba izilwanyana bezikho bafundiswe kakuhle kuba bebancinci. Akuyi kuba nzima kwikati okanye inja edibene nezinye izilwanyana, eziye zasebenza nazo kwaye ezinobuhlobo obuhle ukuba zidibane nesinye isilwanyana kwaye sihlale naye, sabelana ngendawo yakhe. Esi sesinye sezikhokelo eziphambili zokuhlalisana bobabini, abaye bahlala kakuhle njengabantwana.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba nivane yile zikhule kunye, Kodwa oku akusoloko kusenzeka. Ukuba kufuneka sazise ikati okanye inja entsha kwisilo-qabane sethu, kufuneka sikwenze oko ngokukhuselekileyo kuqala. Makamnuke kwaye amazi xa ephethe into, njengoko nobabini ninokoyika okanye nirhanele ngale meko intsha. Ngumcimbi wokuziqhelanisa nobukho bomnye nomnye kunye nokonwabela ukuhlala kunye kancinci kancinci. Kodwa uhlala ulawula ukusabela kokubini kwasekuqaleni, ukuze kungabikho ngxaki.