Inja ngumhlobo osenyongweni womntu, kodwa Ngaba umntu ungumhlobo osenyongweni wenja? Esi silwanyana besiliqabane lohlanga lwethu, i Homo sapiens, kudala ngaphambi kokuba siqale ukwakha izindlu kunye neebhloko, xa sasihlala ngokuvisisana nendalo, kumawaka alishumi eminyaka eyadlulayo.
Basinceda bazingela, basikhusela kwiintshaba zethu, kwaye basigcina sinxulumana. Senze ntoni? Kule minyaka ingamashumi adlulileyo besimphethe gadalala, simsikisile, simlahlile, simphatha ngokungathi uyinto engenazimvakalelo. Nangona imeko itshintsha, kusenokwenzeka ukuthandabuza okuninzi malunga indlela yokuphatha inja. Ukuba kunjalo, ndiyakumema ukuba uqhubeke nokufunda eli nqaku ukuze ubuhlobo bakho nomhlobo wakho onomlilo buye babe bubudlelwane obunyulu nobunyanisekileyo.
Ngaphambi kokuba siqale, ndifuna ukuba uyazi into: andiyiyo i-ethologist okanye umqeqeshi. Andinawo uqeqesho konke konke kula masimi, ngaphandle kwaleyo ndiyifundileyo kwiincwadi ezininzi ezinjeni noko ndikufundileyo kubaqeqeshi abasebenza ngoqeqesho oluqinisekileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba Zonke iingcebiso endiza kukunika zona, yonke into endiza kukuxelela yona, isekwe kumava am.
Ngale nto ithethwayo, masiqale.
Zithini iimfuno zenja yakho?
Hayi, andithethi ngobuhlanga, nditsho nohlobo (I-Canis lupus Famaris) kodwa kwinja yakho: loo furry wayinika igama kwaye uhlala nani. Sonke ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi siyayazi into eyenziwa zizinja: ziyadlala, zihamba, zilala, ziyatya. Kodwa umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye akanakuphindwa. Inja nganye ineencasa zayo kunye neendlela zayo zokuphila nokuzonwabisa.
Kukho abathile abakuthandayo ukulala, kwaye hayi kuba bekruqukile, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bathanda ukuthatha isihlwathi emva kokuhambahamba; abanye, kwelinye icala, bachitha usuku lonke bebaleka emva kwebhola abayithandayo. Kutheni ndikubuza lento? Kuba kuxa unokumqonda umhlobo wakho kuphela.
Ukuphendula kufuneka uyiqwalasele, yonke imihla, kwaye uyiphathe. Njani? Impendulo ilula: mphathe ngendlela obungathanda ukuba bakuphathe ngayo. Ngomonde, ukuhlonipha indawo yakhe, ukummamela (kuyinyani, akathethi, kodwa ukhupha izandi ezinje ngokuntyiloza, ukukhonkotha okanye ukugquma othetha lukhulu ngemood yakhe), kwaye umbonise ukuba ubuncinci uzama ukumqonda ulwimi lomzimba usebenzisa iimpawu zomzimba wakho kunye nokuma komzimba.
Ewe, ndiza kukucebisa ukuba "ube yinja" ukuze uthenjwe yinja yakho, ngakumbi ukuba ibikhe yaxhatshazwa okanye ibihlala ezitalatweni. Yeyona ndlela isebenzayo ukuba isilwanyana sive sikhuselekile. Ngale nto kufuneka wenze oku kulandelayo:
- Ngalo lonke ixesha usiya kulo, yenza ngaphezulu okanye kancinci ububanzi begophe.
- Sukujonga ngqo emehlweni njengoko ebeya kuziva enovalo.
- Sukwenza intshukumo ngequbuliso okanye ingxolo enkulu.
- Ukuba ubonwa ngoloyiko olukhulu, oko kukuthi, ukuba intloko yakhe ithotyiwe, umsila wakhe uphakathi kwemilenze yakhe uyangcangcazela, sondela kuye umfulathele. Emva koko, hlala ecaleni kwakhe kwaye, ungamjonganga, umenzele into etyiwayo. Awunakuziva ngathi kuninzi ekuqaleni, kodwa emva kwethutyana awuyi kuba nakho ukumelana kwakhona.
- Ukuba uyavuya kakhulu ukukubona kwaye uyaxhuma, umfulathele ade ayekiswe.
- Makadle, asele ngoxolo. Musa ukumkhathaza xa elele nokuba (nangona ethanda ukuphathwa 🙂).
- Mthathe uhambe naye kwiinyanga ezimbini zeminyaka yonke imihla. Kufuneka aphume phandle ayokudibana nezinye izinja, iikati, abantu, amavumba… Kulunge kakhulu kuye.
- Sukusebenzisa iindlela ezinokuba yingozi kuye, ungaze, hayi xa ufuna ukumqeqesha okanye xa esenza into engalunganga. Iikhola zesohlwayo, "ukuchukumisa" ngonyawo okanye ngesandla ngokungathi ziyaluma, iintambo zokukrwitsha, ukurabha impumlo yakhe ngomchamo ukuze "afunde" ukuba angazikhulisi phantsi, ... zonke ezi ndlela Ngaba akukho nto bayisebenzelayo ngaphandle kwento enye: ukwenza inja yoyike. Inja esoyika ayifunde, kodwa iyathobela ukunqanda iziphumo.
Ungayiphatha njani inja?
Inja inoboya obuhlala kumaqela osapho. Abanye basanyanzelisa ukuba uhlala kwiipakethi, apho kukho inja ye-alpha ekhokela abo bathobelayo. Abo bakholelwa kulethiyori baya kukuxelela ukuba kuya kufuneka ubonise inja yakho ukuba uyinkokeli, kwaye ungumphathi wepakethi yakho. Ngokwam, Inye kuphela into endicinga ukuba kufuneka ubonakalise ukuba ungumntu ogqibeleleyo kuye, kwaye ayenzeki ngokumnyanzela ukuba enze le nto uyifunayo okanye xa ufuna.
Njengokuba abazali bethu bengabakhokeli bosapho, abasifundisa ukuba siziphathe kakuhle kwaye siphile eluntwini, kuya kufuneka wenze njalo nakwinja yakho. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumphathi, kodwa endaweni yoko, sisikhokelo. Umntu anokuzimela kuye ngalo lonke ixesha eziva embi okanye esoyika, umntu anokonwabela ukudlala naye ngokupheleleyo, umntu anokwabelana naye iminyaka elishumi elinambini, elinesihlanu okanye engamashumi amathathu yobomi.
Kanjalo, uxanduva lokumfundisa luwela kuwe y mqeqeshe, Ngaphandle kwaleyo, Kuya kufuneka umnike uthando oluninzi ukuze uzive usekhaya. Ukongeza, ukusuka kumzuzu wokuqala uthathe isigqibo sokuyifumana okanye ukuyamkela, kuya kufuneka ugcine engqondweni ukuba amaxesha ngamaxesha uyakufuna uncedo lwezilwanyana. Njengomkhathaleli wakho, Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ufumana inkathalo efanelekileyo ukubuyisela impilo yakho.
Ngale ndlela unokonwaba kuphela.