Kukho abo bacinga ukuba izilwanyana ezinjengezinja, ezinesazela esomeleleyo, kunye ne Umvundla, ethi kwindalo izalisekise indima yexhoba, ayinakuhlala ngoxolo. Akukho nto iqhubekayo kwinyani, kuba ngemfundo echanekileyo bobabini banokuba abahlobo abakhulu. Ewe kunjalo, kufuneka silandele izikhokelo ezithile ukusuka kumzuzu wokunikezelwa kwayo; Sikuxelela indlela yokuqhuba ngokufanelekileyo.
Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka ziqhelise ukuthobela imiyalelo nenja yethu, nokuba sele isendlini xa sithatha umvundla okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ungowokugqibela ukujoyina usapho. Kuya kufuneka uyazi imiyalelo esisiseko, njengokuhlala nokuma, ukwenza umboniso ukhuseleke kakhulu kwaye ukwazi ukulawula imeko ngokulula.
Ukuqhuba intlanganiso yakho yokuqala, kuyacetyiswa ukuba sijonge indawo engathathi hlangothi, apho kungekho nasinye kwezi zilwanyana zibini eziva ukuba indawo yazo ihlaselwe. Ke ngoko, kungcono ukuyenza kwindawo apho bengatyi okanye balale khona; Ukongeza, kufanele ukuba yindawo apho sinokuthi sihambe kwaye siphathe inja kamnandi.
Kubalulekile ukuba umvundla uhlale kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, enje ngekheyiji okanye umthuthi, apho inja ingenakufikelela khona. Siza kulawula inja nge ibhanti, ukuyibamba nkqi kodwa ukuphepha ukuxhuzula; Ngaphezu koko, kuyacetyiswa ukuba simlalise phantsi okanye ahlale phantsi ejonge isilwanyana sethu sesibini. Konke oku kuzolile, ngaphandle kokufaka uxinzelelo kwizilwanyana, ukwenza intshukumo ngesiquphe okanye ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho.
Siza kusebenzisa i ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo, ukuvuza inja ngemivumbo nangamazwi amnandi xa izolile. Kwelinye icala, ukuba siqaphele ukuba umvundla uyoyika okanye inja iyavuya kakhulu, siza kuyisusa kuloo ndawo de bazole bobabini. Siza kuzama kwakhona kungekudala.
Siza kuqhuba ezi seshoni zincinci yonke imihla, de ezi zilwanyana zimbini ziqale ukuthatha umdla komnye nomnye, ukusondela kunye nokuhoyana. Soloko iphantsi kweliso lethu, ubuncinci phakathi kweeveki zokuqala, de siqinisekise ukuba akukho bungozi. Ukuba inja ibonisa ubundlongondlongo, kufuneka siyilungise ngophawu "hayi" kwaye simse egumbini. Siza kudinga umonde, njengoko ngamanye amaxesha inkqubo inde.
Kuphela kuxa siqinisekile ukuba akukho bungozi, sizakuthatha umvundla ezandleni zethu kwaye siza kuyivumela inja ukuba iyirhole. Kungcono ukuba nomhlobo okanye isalamane esisincedayo esinokuthatha isilwanyana okanye sikhuphe umtya xa kukho imfuneko. Ixesha elingaphezulu, nobabini niyakuqhela ubukho bakhe kwaye banokude babe nobuhlobo obomeleleyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha ezi ngcebiso azonelanga ukuhlangabezana nale njongo. Ukuba siqaphela iingxaki zokuziphatha okanye iimpawu zobundlongondlongo kwinja yethu, kuya kufuneka siye ku umqeqeshi oqeqeshiweyo.