Sonke esinazo okanye esinezinja siyazi okanye sinokwenza intuit ukuba zinenkumbulo. Xa befika ekhaya, umzekelo, bayonwaba kakhulu xa besibona, okanye xa sibabonisa leash ngaphambi nje kokuba siye kubethwa ngumoya. Nangona kunjalo, sinokungabaza malunga injani inkumbulo yenja Ngokwenene.
Ke ukuba kunjalo, ungakhathazeki. Emva koko siza kuthetha ngobude ngesihloko esinomdla njengememori yenye yezona zihlobo zibalaseleyo zomntu.
Ngaba izinja zinenkumbulo?
Okokuqala, siza kusombulula elinye lamathandabuzo abantu abaninzi abanalo. Ezi zilwanyana ewe banenkumbulo, kodwa ngokungafaniyo nathi, abanayo i-episodic (Oko kukuthi, abakwazi ukufunxa, ukugcina nokutywina iziqendu kwindawo ethile yobuchopho babo), kodwa ngokudibeneyo.
Imemori yokudibanisa yinto ebavumela ukuba badibanise ezinye izinto kwaye baziguqulele kwinkumbulo. Oku kuchaza ukuba kutheni onwabile ukubona umtya, kuba uyazi kakuhle ukuba oko kuthetha ukuhamba ... kwaye uyayithanda loo nto (okoko nje engakhange aphathwe kakubi, ewe, kwimeko apho azakwenza khona kude lee ngangokunokwenzeka nebhanti).
Imemori yakhe yexeshana elifutshane, kodwa inemibala
Izinja zihlala ngalo mzuzu. Ukusuka kwimvelaphi yabo bayayenza ngoluhlobo, kuba kwindalo akukho xesha lokucinga malunga nexesha elidlulileyo, kungasathethwa kangako ngekamva. Ukuba isilwanyana senze njalo, ngekhe kuthathe ixesha elide ukuba sikhutshwe. Umthetho wokuphila ufuna ukuba wonke umntu aphile ngoku, ezama ukuziqhelanisa kangangoko anakho neemeko ezahlukeneyo ezinokuvela imini yonke.
Nangona ezi zilwanyana zihlala nabantu iminyaka eyi-10 XNUMX, ngokubhekisele ekusindeni zihlala ziphantse zafana nezona zikhulu zazo zisekude: iingcuka. Kodwa bayazi ukuba bathembele kuthi ukuba baqhubele phambili. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba badibana nomntu ongabaphathi kakuhle, baya kugcina iinkumbulo ezimbi kwimemori yabo... ethi kamva ibenzima -kungeke kwenzeke- ukubanceda balibale.
Intlonipho kunye nokuthenjwa sisiseko sobuhlobo obuhle phakathi kwenja kunye nabantu
Xa sithatha isigqibo sokuhlala nenja kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba siqiniseke ukuba inayo yonke into eyifunayo. Kwaye xa ndisithi "yonke into" ndithetha amanzi, ukutya, indawo ekhuselekileyo necocekileyo yokuhlala, iithoyi, ... kunye nothando, imbeko kunye nokuthembela. Ngaphandle kwezi zinto zintathu zokugqibela, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuba uboya bonwabe.
Kungenxa yoko, xa sifuna ukumqeqesha, eyona nto sinokumenzela yona kukusebenzisa ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo. Ukongeza, kufuneka siqonde ukuba ukuze samkele iikhonsepthi kwaye sifunde, inkumbulo yakhe inemizuzwana eli-10 ukuya kwengama-20 ukusuka xa iodolo ixelelwe ukuba inxibelelanise igama kunye nokuphendula okulindelweyo kuye. Yiyo loo nto xa ubangxolisa, umzekelo, emva kwemizuzu engama-30 wenze ububi, awazi ukuba kwakutheni ukuze umntu abe nomsindo okanye acaphuke.
Ungayinceda njani inja ephethwe gadalala?
Ngoku ekubeni sisazi ukuba inkumbulo yenja iyakwazi ukukhumbula imicimbi nokuba yonwabe kakhulu okanye ilusizi kakhulu, sinokufumana umbono wokuba kubi kangakanani xa iphethwe okanye iphethwe kakubi. Iintshukumo ezenzeka ngesiquphe, ukukhala, ukushiya,… konke oku kusentloko yakhe, kwaye ufuna umntu wokumnceda alibale. Njani?
Impendulo ilula njengokuba inzima: ngothando, umonde nentlonipho. Ukuzama ukuzithemba ngokuthembela kunye nokuphatha sisiqalo esihle. Akufanele umnyanzele ukuba enze nantoni na angayifuniyo. Sukungxola, okanye wenze iintshukumo ngequbuliso, okanye ingxolo yalo naluphi na uhlobo (ungade ubeke umculo kwivolumu ephezulu).
Kancinci kancinci uya kulishiya ixesha lakhe elidlulileyo ngasemva. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha unokufuna uncedo oluncinci, kwaye unokunikwa ngumfundisi we-canine osebenza ngokuqinisekileyo, ke ndiyacebisa ukuba ubonisane nomnye ukuba awunalo nofifi lokuba ungabunceda njani ubushushu bakho, okanye ukuba kuninzi esele kwenzekile. ndingekafumani ziphumo.
Ngaba ufumene esi sihloko sinomdla?