Ukufa kwento esihlala siyibiza ngokuba ngumhlobo wethu osenyongweni, inja, kune Umzuzu omkhulu wokuba lusizi kunye noxinzelelo, bobabini benkosi yakhe awabelana nabo ixesha elingakumbi lobomi kunye nelinye iqela losapho.
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ukuba izinja zizinto ekuthi ixesha lihambe zisithande ngothando nangomdla kwaye baba lilungu elinye losapho, Esimele ukunika zonke iintlobo ingqalelo, uthando, ukuqonda.
Ngabantwana abadla ngokuzimela kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo baqhotyoshelwe ekufumaneni unyango olufanayo lwesilwanyana esihle, kodwa nabantu abadala banikwe ukuthatha uthando oluninzi kwaye ekugqibeleni banoxanduva, abo Kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba inja ayisweli nto, kananjalo kufuneka bazi yonke into enxulumene nomgangatho wobomi be-canine, ezinje ngezitofu zokugonya, iinwele, ugqirha wezilwanyana, ukutya, ulonwabo, ngamafutshane, yonke into eyenza ukuba ubomi benja bube mnandi kwaye bube mnandi nosapho lwayo "
Kuninzi ekuthethwa ngako malunga iinzuzo zokuba nesilwanyana ekhaya, kulo mzekelo inja, nokuba yeyoluphi na uhlobo, umbala okanye ubungakanani, kokubini ebantwaneni nakubantu abadala.
Inja iba yiyo ukuphazamiseka, phakathi kolonwabo, kwiqabane elingenakwahlulwa ukuba abe secaleni kwabo ngamaxesha onke kwaye uya kuya naphi na, okoko nje bemthwele, xa kusiza kuhambo olude kude nekhaya.
Inja iba njalo Oyena Mhlobo Mntu, kwiqabane lakhe lobomi, lokubandezeleka, lokuvuya, ngokufutshane ulilungu elinye losapho.
Ngaba ukuhamba kwenja kokugqibela kwenzakalisa?
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, xa lifikile ixesha lokuba "umhlobo" ahambe okanye, ngamanye amazwi, afe, oko ivelisa iintlungu noxinzelelo, ivelisa umsindo wokwexeshana, ukungaqondakali phambi kwetyala, ishiya isithuba esilahlekileyo esingenakulungiseka, kwaye xa kufikwa ebantwaneni, ngamanye amaxesha ngabona bachaphazeleka kakhulu ngokwasemphefumlweni, nangona abantu abadala bechukumiseka nelahleko.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bakufumanisa kunzima ukukuqonda oko inja inomjikelo wobomi kwaye uyakufa kwakhona xa ixesha liphelile, kulapho ke kufuneka sibhenele kubuchule bokudala kwaye simenze abone njengendalo kangangoko ukwahlulwa komhlobo wakhe osenyongweni, umntu adlala naye.
Kuyaqondakala ukuba sifuna ukubuyisela omnye oshiye omnye ngokukhawuleza, kwaye sijonge enye injana sikholelwa ukuba ngale nto siyayinciphisa le ntlungu, inokuba yinyani kwezinye iimeko, ukuba nje ilungu elitsha lizalisa isithuba esishiyekileyo Oko kukuthi, Le nja intsha yenza into enye okanye iphantse yenze enye inja, kungenjalo inokuvelisa ukudana kunye nokudana.
Kodwa kwakhona Abantu abadala abadala nabo banengxaki yokuphulukana neqabane labo iminyaka embalwa, nabo bayakuthanda "umhlobo" wabo kwaye xa ukusweleka kwenzeka baba lusizi kwaye badandatheke.
Ungasabela njani ekufeni kwenja?
Kuludwe lweendlela zokwenza ilahleko yomhlobo wakho iveliswe, kuya kuxhomekeka usabela njani nendlela ethathwa ngayo.
Ndiza kuchaza, ukuba ilahleko ivela ngokwendalo, oko kukuthi, inja yayisele indala kakhulu, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ukuba nangawuphi na umzuzu ukufa kuyakufika, ngale ndlela Intlungu ithathwa ngokuba namandla amancinci; Ngokuchasene noko, ukuba ukufa kwenzeka ngesiquphe, kabuhlungu okanye ngenxa yengozi, kuya kubangela iintlungu noxinzelelo; Elinye ityala lixa ukufa kusenzeka ngenxa yesifo ebesingenakuthintelwa, kuba amayeza ebengasebenzi okanye kuba sisifo esinganyangekiyo, mhlawumbi siyazilungiselela ngokurhoxa kwaye sicinga ukuba oku kuza kuza ngokukhawuleza kwaye Sinciphise iintlungu ukuba siyazi kwaye siyayazi ukubandezeleka kwesilwanyana kwaye siyaqonda ukuba le yayiyeyona nto ilungileyo kuloo meko.
Ngale ndlela ke kufuneka siyiqonde loo nto izilwanyana, njengabantu, zinobomi Kwaye emva kwelo xesha ukunyamalala kokugqibela kubonisiwe, ukuvaleliswa ngonaphakade.