Ukuqhubeka nomxholo wayizolo, malunga nendlela thina bantu esizibeka ngayo izinja kwiimvakalelo zethu ezimbi, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngesihloko esiza ngokufanayo nale, Sizithumela njani iimvakalelo zethu kwizilwanyana zethu?s. Ngumxholo omde, apho ndiza kuzama khona ukungacacisi kakhulu.
Nje ukuba sibone iimfuno ezisisiseko ezili-11 zokugubungela inja, kwaye sinike utyekelo lwemfuzo (ukuba kunokwenzeka), inye kuphela into enokubangela uxinzelelo, US. Ngaphandle kokunye ndikushiya ne Ukufundisa kwinqanaba leemvakalelo: Uxinzelelo olubangelwa ngabantu. Ndiyanqwena uyayithanda.
Kwiposi yangaphambili, Ukufundisa kwinqanaba leemvakalelo: Uxinzelelo olubangelwa ngabantu, Ndiyathetha malunga nendlela esizivelisa ngayo inja yethu kwaye ngakumbi ubudlelwane bethu nayo. Ngaphandle kokuqonda kwethu, asingeni kumandla amabi akhokelela ekubeni sithathe izigqibo ngokungxama malunga nesilwanyana sasekhayaa.
Namhlanje ndiza kuthetha ngendlela esidlulisela ngayo uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kwinja, oko kubangela uxinzelelo, ukuba kugcinwa, kunokuba sisifo kwaye kuphele kuxinzelelo olungapheliyo, into eyingozi kakhulu.
Ngokwamakhulu USilvia Beseran ye-GEDVA (Ndicebisa ukuba uyikhangele kwaye umamele, iyayazi ukuba ithetha ngantoni), zimbini iindlela zokujonga kunye nokudlulisa iimvakalelo zethu kwinja:
Ukuqhuba ngokuthe ngqo: Oku kulula ukuyichaza kwaye uyiqonde. Ukuba uyayikhwaza inja yakho, yiba nomsindo, ube ndlongondlongo, okanye uthethe nje nayo ngamandla amakhulu ngokweemvakalelo, uyokugqibela ukudideka, umbhlake kwaye umcinezele. Sifanele sihlale sithetha nenja yethu ngelizwi elizolileyo nelizolileyo, senza umyalezo omfutshane, okrakrayo kunye nowakhayo. Akufunekanga sithethe nenja yethu, ndiyaphinda. Oko kuyabaphazamisa.
Ukuhanjiswa ngokungangqalanga: Kuxa sifumana imvakalelo, ukanti asiyichazi. Oku kunzima ngakumbi ukukuchaza, nangona kunjalo ndiza kukwenza ngokulula. Khawufane ucinge ukuba uhamba esitratweni kunye nenja yakho ngeqhina lomtshato uze udibane nomntu. Okwalo mzuzu, xa uwela ekuphakameni kohamba ngeenyawo, ucinga ukuba inja yakho izakusondela kakhulu kwaye uyitsale ngomnwe ukuze uyihambise. Inja inikezela ngenkcaso, kwaye utolike ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba isilwanyana sakho singaphindi sikulume okanye simkhothe umfokazi omkhathazayoUkuba akunjalo, yichukumise nje, kwaye ngaphambi koku kunokwenzeka ukuba uxakeke kwaye ulahle ngaphezulu, ngaphambi kwento ephoswa yinja kwakhona, ukusukela ukuba sisilwanyana esihlala sibonelela ngokuchasene nolo hlobo lokukhuthaza, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba yenze njalo. Phambi koku ubuyela ekutsaleni ngamandla amakhulu usiya kude, phakathi kokukhonkotha inja, kodwa awuyithethisi okanye uyingxolise okanye ubonakalise umsindo wakho kuye. Uyayishiya imeko, ukhathazekile kwaye unemoya. Wakhe wazibuza ukuba inja iyiqonda njani?
Isilwanyana sethu idityaniswe kuthi phantse kwinqanaba lomzimba. Izinja ziyakwazi ukubona utshintsho lwethu kubushushu, uxinzelelo lwegazi, zifunde izijekulo zomzimba kwinqanaba le Ingqondo (uPatrick Jane) okanye ubone ukunciphisa komfundi wethu malunga ne-8 okanye i-9 yeemitha kude nathi. Ngale nto ndifuna ukukuxelela ukuba akakhohliseki lula. Kukho izinja ezifumanisa iintlobo ezithile zomhlaza.
Ewe, kwimeko engaphambili, sidibene nomntu esitratweni saza saphendula phambi kwendlela ebonakalayo yenja yakho kumntu wasemzini kunye nomsindo olandelayo wale nto. Xa ixesha lixinekile, inja iyayiqaphela. Kwintloko yakhe kuvela umbono ocacileyo: Umhlobo wam ongumntu uye wakhathazeka. Kum ayinakuba kukuba ndihamba naye. Kufuneka ibe kunye naloo mntu. Kwaye uthathe isenzo. Wolula isandla ukuze abone ukuba umntu wasemzini uyingozi na. Kwaye uyamthintela ukuba asondele ngokumtsala nge-leash, ngaloo ndlela umthintele ekusebenziseni impumlo yakhe ukujonga isoyikiso esinokubakho kunye nokulayisha kwakhona ngoxinzelelo. Wena ngokwasemzimbeni, uqala ukufumana iimpendulo zomzimba inja yakho esele idibene nayo xa ugula. Kwaye oko kuyakwenza ukuba ushiye apho unemvakalelo embi, kwaye ukholelwa ukuba umfokazi lutshaba. Kungenzeka ukuba uqhubeke nokumbeka kuxinzelelo, abanye baqala ukuba noburhalarhume kubantu abangabaziyo.
Ewe, sifikile apha. Ngakumbi ngomso. Imibuliso kwaye unakekele intliziyo yenja yakho !!