Uyazisa njani injana yenja yam?

Ukuba ucinga ngokufumana isilwanyana esitsha, kuya kufuneka ukuba uthathele ingqalelo isini kunye nobudala, Kucetyiswa ukuba bathabathe malunga neminyaka emibini bohlukeneNgoku ukuba isilwanyana sakho siqhele ukuhlala nezinye izilwanyana, ukufika kwenjana entsha ekhayeni lakho akuyi kuba yingxaki enkulu kuwe.

Nangona kunjalo, kukho izinto ezithile esinokuzenza ukuze ubudlelwane phakathi kwezi zilwanyana zombini bube bukhulu ukususela ngexesha lokufika.

Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokwazisa ilungu elitsha losapho?

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukuba isilwanyana esitsha siyinjana kufuneka sibe ne indawo ezolileyo kwaye ayivelisi umothuko kwixesha elizayoMasikhumbule ukuba baphume ngokuhambelana kunye nentuthuzelo kamama wabo kwaye bazilungelelanisa nemeko entsha, apho umama okanye abantakwabo babengekho.

Kuya kufuneka sigcine isilwanyana esidala engqondweni, kuba akufuneki siyisuse ngasemva, ngenxa yoko sinokuyiphepha ukuba ibe ndlongondlongo nangayiphi na indlela nolo lutsha, kunokwenzeka ukuba inja endala setha imida yenjana Oko kubalulekile ukuba uyihloniphe, kuba ngandlela thile ufundisa umntu omtsha ukuba alandele imigaqo ethile.

Eyona nto iqhelekileyo iya kuba ngqina umgama phakathi kwenja endala kunye nentsha iintsuku ezimbalwa.

Ngokwendalo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba xa injana ikhala okanye ihlaba, isifuba sesilwanyana sihlasela ukukhusela umntwana, ke ukuba enye inja ikufuphi, umama uya kuyihlasela loo nja. Kungenxa yesiqhelo le nto kuqhelekile ukuba izinja ezindala zigcina umgama wazo Ngelixa uqinisekisa ukuba akukho mama uza kubahlasela. Ke ukuba uyangqina kwezi zimo ziqhelekile, kuba ziya ngokuthe chu ukusebenzisana ngokobudala benjana. Ke kungcono ukuba unganyanzeli naluphi na unxibelelwano phakathi kwabo, baya kuthi ekugqibeleni bazenzele ngokwabo kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kakhulu.

Ngokubanzi, ivumba analo injana yakhe lenza ukuba inja endala ingasebenzi ngomsindo, ukusukela oko izinja zihlala zinomqondo okhuselayo neenjana, ke eli vumba lelona lilungileyo lokudala ukuhlalisana phakathi kwezilwanyana zasekhaya ezimbini. Ngoku ukuba sele uzazi zonke izinto eziguqukayo zokuba nesilwanyana esitsha kwaye wamkela inja yesini esahlukileyo kunye nobudala obahlukeneyo, ezi ngcebiso ziya kunceda kakhulu ukuqala ukuhlala kunye.

Kwimeko apho uhlala endlwini kwaye unesilwanyana sasekhaya, kuya kufuneka uthathe injana eyindoda, okokuqala oku kuya kuba mbi kwaye uya kufuna nokunyanzela ubunkokheli bakhe injana. Oku kuya kutshintsha ekugqibeleni kunye nokuhlala kunye kuya kwahluka.

Ngoku, ukuba inja yakho endala yindoda kwaye uthathe injana yabasetyhini, ukuhlala kunye kusenokwenzeka ukuba kulula kakhulu. Amadoda athambekele ekubeni zizidenge kakhulu kubafazi kwaye kufanele ukuba kuqatshelwe ukuba ukuba awucingi malunga nokutshatana kwexesha elizayo kungcono ukuthena inkunzi kwangaphambili.

Kukho ukubakho kokufumana ithole eliyindoda kunye nendoda endala, kule meko kufuneka ubazise kwindawo engathathi hlangothi kwaye ulinde de Ulwimi lomzimba wazo zombini izinja zilungile. Enye indlela yokuba zombini izilwanyana zazane kungaba ukwahlula indawo enesakhelo apho inja endala inokujonga khona kwaye ivumba injana.

Okanye kwimeko yokwahlulahlulahlula okungenakwenziwa, singazisa zombini izinja kwiibhokisi ezinkulu apho zinokubona khona kwaye zinevumba enye kwenye, oko ke kuncede zombini izilwanyana ukuba zazi kwaye zidibane. Okwangoku xa zikhangeleka zizolile emzimbeni, ungasusa isilwanyana esidala kwaye usivumele ukuba sihlolisise indawo ezikuyo, emva koko senze okufanayo nakwisilwanyana sesibini.

Ngexesha leeveki zokuqala bahlala bedlala kakhuluImidlalo enokubonakala ngathi inobundlongondlongo ekugqibeleni iba nokuzola ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye ngexesha lokunxibelelana kokuqala, kuya kufuneka uhlale uphaphile kwaye ugcine ukubekwa esweni rhoqo.