Xa ungumntu omtsha, zininzi iimpazamo ezinokwenziwa. Oku kuqhelekile, kuba ngokucacileyo akukho mntu uzalwa esazi, kodwa kuyinyani ukuba baninzi abantu abazithatha njengabaqeqeshi abasebenzisa iindlela zoqeqesho, endaweni yokufundisa, into abayenzayo kukwenza inja yoyike.
Ngeli xesha ndizokuxelela zeziphi ezona mpazamo zixhaphakileyo xa uqeqesha inja.
Phambi kokuba ndiqale, ndifuna ukucacisa ukuba andinguye i-ethologist okanye umqeqeshi, ke le nto ndiza kukuxelela yona ngokulandelayo isekwe kumava am, kwintoni abahlobo nabantu endibaziyo abebendixelela, kwaye nakwilento ndiyifundileyo kwiincwadi ezininzi zemfundo yezinja noqeqesho.
Impazamo yenombolo 1: Senza izinja ubuntu
Baninzi, baninzi abantu abaphatha izinja zabo njengabantwana babantu. Ngokucacileyo, kuya kufuneka ubakhathalele kwaye ubanike uthando, kodwa Ayilombono ulungileyo okanye ubakhusele ngokugqithisileyo, okanye ubanxibe (ngaphandle kokuba kungafuneki), okanye ubeke ipleyiti yabo etafileni, okanye usoloko ubaphethe ngeengalo okanye kubahambi.
Kodwa akufuneki nokuba bohlwaywe ngokungathi bohlwaya umntwana: "uya kuhlala ebhedini yakho njengesohlwayo", "namhlanje akusayi kubakho kuhamba ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakho kakubi", kunye nezimvo ezifanayo. Ngoba? Abayiqondi. Bahlala kuphela kumzuzu wangoku, kwaye ngalo mzuzu xa simxelela loo nto, uyazi kuphela ukuba unomsindo ngaye, kodwa ayikho enye into. Akukho sizathu sokohlwaya ukuze abenexesha lokucinga ngento ayenzileyo, kuba akanakho ukuyenza.
Into ekufuneka uyenzile kuku zama ukuphepha ukungaziphathi kakuhle, kwaye yazise ukuba isimilo esibi asamkelekanga. Kodwa kulungile xa engaziphathi kakuhle, hayi emva.
Impazamo yenombolo 2: ukukhwaza kunye nokuthinta
Ukuqhubeka nomxholo wezohlwayo, musa ukubangxolisa okanye ubabethe. Ngale ndlela akukho nto iya kufezekiswa, ngaphandle kokuba esoyika kwaye esenza izinto, hayi kuba efuna ukuzenza, kodwa kuba esoyika ukuba uza kwenzakala. Izinja zazi kakuhle xa zenze into engalunganga ngokusijonga nje ebusweni, azidingi (enyanisweni, ukuba yenziwe, siya kuba senza ulwaphulo-mthetho lokuxhaphaza izilwanyana) ukubethwa
Impazamo yenombolo 3: Ukulayisha inja yethu ngoxinzelelo kunye / okanye uxinzelelo
Ngenxa yesantya sobomi bethu obuxakekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba sizive sinoxinzelelo kunye / okanye unxunguphalo, kodwa akufuneki siyithwalise inja yethu ngayo. Akanakubekwa tyala ngayo nantoni na, kwaye ufuna nje ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka nathi, kodwa uzolile. Ke ukuba ujongene noxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo, ungaqala ukuthatha i-valerian okanye i-linden infusions, wenze imithambo yokuphefumla, umamele umculo okhululekileyo ... Ngamafutshane, nantoni na oyithandayo kwaye ikuphumze.
Impazamo yenombolo 4: ukumbek 'ityala ngeempazamo zakhe
Inja ayizalwanga yazi, ke, umzekelo, ukuba uyayitsala leash, kungenxa yokuba umntu wakhe akamfundisanga ukuba ahambe nayo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kugcinwe engqondweni, kuba ngabo abaya kukufundisa; Ewe ngokunjalo, usebenzisa iindlela ezihlonipha isilwanyana Kwaye bakufundisa ukuba ucinge, njengoqeqesho oluqinisekileyo.
Impazamo inombolo 5: ukwenza uqeqesho umsebenzi, hayi umdlalo
Izinja, njengabantwana, zifunda ngcono kwaye zikhawuleze kakhulu ukuba ziyonwaba. Ke, Iseshoni nganye yoqeqesho kufuneka ibe mnandi, ngelixa livuselela. Singazikhupha iibhola sizifihle ukuze ahambe ayokuzikhangela, asasaze amaqhekeza esoseji kumgangatho wegadi ukuze asebenzise imvakalelo yokujoja ukuzifumana,… Nokuba kunjalo, sebenzisa ukucinga kwakho kwaye uza ubone ukuba wonwabe kangakanani.
Ngendlela, nika imiyalelo elula, Ngegama elinye, kuba kungenjalo linokudideka.
Kwaye wena, uyiqeqesha njani inja yakho?