Izinja zinokuziva, njengabantu, umona kwezinye izilwanyana okanye abantu kokungqongileyo. Oku kungakhokelela kwiingxaki ezinzulu zokuziphatha, ezinje ngokuba ndlongondlongo okanye uxinzelelo, ke kubalulekile ukuba siyazi indlela yokuthintela nokusombulula le mpixano. Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka kuqala sifumanise ukuba yintoni unobangela wayo.
Amazwi nomona Banokukhuthazwa zizinto ezahlukeneyo, zihlala zibonisa utshintsho lwendima kulawulo lwabo. Bahlulwe ngokubanzi baba ziindidi ezimbini: umona ngokwesondo (umlo wabasetyhini, obangelwa sisazela sokhokho) kwaye umona wokuqwalaselwa. Ezi zilandelayo ziziphumo zokufika kwesilwanyana esitsha okanye ilungu losapho ekhaya. Beqonda ukuba abasengoyena ndoqo wokuqwalaselwa, baziva belusizi kwaye bengazithembanga.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukufumanisa ukuba inja yethu inomona okanye yenye yeengxaki. Ezinye zeempawu ezibonisa ubukho beli khwele ngamaxhala, ukungakhathali, isimilo esinaso, utshintsho kwiimvakalelo zakho, ukucaphuka noburhalarhume. Siza kuqaphela ukuba ubonakalisa isimo sengqondo esibi ukuze afumane ingqalelo yethu.
Isisombululo siya kuxhomekeka unobangela oko kubangela umona. Umzekelo, ukuba zenzeka phakathi kwezinja ezimbini okanye ezingaphezulu, kuya kufuneka siqiniseke ukuba sinika ingqalelo efanayo kubo bonke. Kwelinye icala, xa ilungu elitsha lifika kusapho, kuya kufuneka siyicacise ukuba ingaphezulu kwesilwanyana kulawulo oluphezulu, nangona singakhange sizityeshele iimfuno zayo. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba ngokuthe ngcembe siqhelane nobukho babo.
Iya kusinceda nathi phawula imida ethile kwinja, qinisekisa ukuba iyahambelana nemigaqo; Kuphela ke uya kukwazi ukuhlonipha ulawulo olumiselweyo. Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba ukohlwaya ngokuziphatha gwenxa kuphume emntwini okanye ebantwini abanesilwanyana.
Zonke ezi ziingcebiso ngokubanzi ezinokunceda, kodwa ukuba inja ibonisa indlela yokuziphatha yokulwa, kungcono ukubonisana ne umqeqeshi oqeqeshiweyo.