Ungayethula kanjani injana enjeni yami?

Uma ucabanga ukuthola isilwane esisha, kuyadingeka ukuthi ucabangele ubulili nobudala, Kunconywa ukuthi bathathe cishe iminyaka emibili ngokuhlukanaManje uma isilwane sakho sijwayele ukuhlala nezinye izilwane, ukufika komdlwane omusha ekhaya lakho ngeke kube yinkinga enkulu kuwe.

Kodwa-ke, kunezinto ezithile esingazenza ukuze ukuhlangana phakathi kwalezi zilwane zombili kube kuhle kusukela ngesikhathi sokufika.

Yini indlela engcono yokwethula ilungu elisha lomndeni?

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi uma isilwane esisha singumdlwane kufanele sibe ne- imvelo ezolile futhi lokho akubangeli ukuhlukumezeka ngokuzayoMasikhumbule ukuthi baphume ekuhambisaneni nasekunethezekeni kukanina nokuthi bazijwayeza indawo entsha, lapho umama noma izingane zakubo kungenzeka bengekho.

Kumele futhi sikhumbule isilwane esidala, ngoba akufanele nanini siyise ngemuva, ngakho-ke singakugwema ukuba nolaka nganoma iyiphi indlela nomuntu omusha, kungenzeka ukuthi inja endala setha imingcele yomdlwane okuyinto ebalulekile ukuhlonishwa, ngoba ngandlela thile ufundisa umuntu omusha ukuthi alandele imithetho ethile.

Into ejwayelekile kunazo zonke kuzoba fakaza ibanga phakathi kwenja endala nofikayo okwezinsuku ezimbalwa.

Ngokwemvelo, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi lapho umdlwane ukhala noma ukhonkotha, isifuba sesilwane sihlasela ukuvikela ingane, ngakho-ke uma enye inja iseduze, umama uzoyihlasela leyo nja. Kungakho kujwayelekile ukuthi izinja ezindala zigcina ibanga lazo ngenkathi uqinisekisa ukuthi akekho umama ozobahlasela. Ngakho-ke uma ufakaza ngalezi zimo ngendlela ejwayelekile, ngoba zizoxhumana kancane kancane ngokweminyaka yemidlwane. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukungaphoqi noma yikuphi ukuxhumana phakathi kwabo, ekugcineni bazokwenza bodwa ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kakhulu.

Ngokuvamile, iphunga umdlwane onalo lenza inja endala ingaziphathi ngendlela enobudlova, ngoba izinja zivame ukuba nomqondo wokuvikela ngemidlwane, ngakho-ke leli phunga lingcono kakhulu ukukhiqiza ukuhlangana okuhle phakathi kwalezi zilwane ezimbili. Manje uma usuvele uzazi zonke izinto eziguqukayo zokuba nesilwane esisha futhi wamukela inja yobulili obuhlukile nobudala obuhlukile, lawa macebiso azosiza kakhulu ukuqala ukuhlala ndawonye.

Uma kwenzeka uhlala endlini futhi unesilwane sasekhaya, khona-ke kufanele uthathe umdlwane wesilisa, okokuqala lokhu kuzoba kubi futhi uzofuna nokuphoqelela ubuholi bakhe kumdlwane. Lokhu kuzogcina kuguquke futhi ukuhlala ndawonye kuzohluka.

Manje, uma inja yakho endala ingowesilisa futhi uthola umdlwane wesifazane, ukuhlala ndawonye mhlawumbe kulula kakhulu. Abesilisa bavame ukuba yizilima kwabesifazane futhi kufanele kwaziwe ukuthi uma ungacabangi ngokukhwelana esikhathini esizayo kungcono ukuthena owesilisa kusengaphambili.

Kukhona futhi ithuba lokuthola ithole leduna ngendoda endala, kulokhu kuyadingeka ukubazisa endaweni engathathi hlangothi bese ulinda kuze kube ulimi lomzimba lwezinja zombili luhle. Enye indlela yokuthi zombili lezi zilwane zazane kungaba ukuhlukanisa indawo nohlaka lapho inja endala ingabona futhi inuke umdlwane.

Noma uma kwenzeka ukwahlukaniswa okunjalo kungenziwa, singazethula zombili izinja emabhokisini amakhulu lapho zingabona khona futhi zinuke, ngaleyo ndlela sisize zombili izilwane ezifuywayo ukuba zazi futhi zihlangane. Okwamanje lapho zibukeka zizolile ngokwengeziwe emzimbeni, ungakhipha isilwane esidala bese usivumela ukuthi sihlole isikhala lapho zikhona, bese senza okufanayo ngesilwane sesibili.

Phakathi namasonto okuqala bajwayele ukudlala kakhulu ngomunye nomunyeImidlalo engabonakala inolaka ekugcineni iba nokuthula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nangesikhathi sokuhlangana kokuqala, kufanele uhlale uqaphile futhi ugcine ukuphatha njalo.