Kutheni izinja zihlasela? Lo ngumbuzo abantu abaninzi abazibuza wona xa bebona umhlobo wabo ngequbuliso enoburharha okanye ehlasela umntu abamthandayo. Kwaye kukuba ukuhlala kunye kulunge kuwo wonke umntu kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantu bazinike ixesha lokuqonda ulwimi lomzimba wezilwanyana ezihlala ekhaya, kuba zizinto abazenza nathi yonke imihla.
Ke ukuba ufuna ukwazi impendulo yalo mbuzo, siza kuthetha ngobude ngalo.
Kutheni behlasela nje?
Izinja zingahlasela ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo:
- Isiporho: xa besiva iintlungu nakweliphi na ilungu lomzimba wabo kwaye sibaphatha kanye kuloo ndawo ibuthathaka, banokushlasela.
- Ithuku loomamaIibhetshi ezisandula ukuba ngoomama zinokukhusela kakhulu ukuba sizama ukufuya okanye ukubamba iinjana.
- Ukukhusela: Kungenxa yokuba baye baxhatshazwa okanye ngenxa yokuba besiva ukuba ubomi babo buxhomekeke kuyo.
- ITerritorio: Ayizizo izilwanyana zasendle (kunjalo, hayi kakhulu njengoko iikati zinokuba njalo), kodwa ungasoloko ufumana engayinyamezeliyo nayiphi na inja entsha ekhayeni labo.
- Ukutya: kuzo zonke izinto eziphilayo kubaluleke kakhulu ukutya, ngandlela thile. Kwimeko yezinja, ukuba zinexhala okanye ziye zakhathazwa xa zisitya, kukho amathuba okuba ziya kuhlasela ukuba ziphazamisekile okanye ukuba uzama ukususa umondli, into ngendlela engeke yenzeke. Akukho namnye kuthi ongathanda ukuba ipleyiti yakhe isuswe ngelixa sitya.
- Ukukhusela ngaphezulu: umzekelo, xa inja ikhusela umntu ngokugqithileyo kwaye akazinikelanga xesha lide kuqeqesho, kuphela ukumnika ukutya nothando. Omnye umntu unokugqibela ngokulunywa yinja xa ezama ukusondela kuye.
- Uluntu ihlwempu: izinja ukusuka kwiinyanga ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-3 kufuneka zinxibelelane nezinye izinja, iikati kunye nabantu ukuze ngomso, xa sele bebadala, bazi ukuba babe kunye nabo. Kodwa ukuba ayenzeki, emva kokuba bekhulile banokuba ndlongondlongo.
Wazi njani ukuba baya kuhlasela?
Izinja zizilwanyana ezinoxolo ngokwendalo, into yokuqala abaza kuyenza "lumkisa" ukuba baziva bekhathazekile kwaye / okanye bexhalabile. Baza kuyenza njani? Ngokukrokra, ukujonga, ukubonisa amazinyo, ukujija uboya emqolo nasemsileni, kunye / okanye nokuhamba kude nento okanye abo bayityeshelayo yonke le miyalezo.
Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba bahlala behlala belumkisa. Into yokuba kukho abazali abathi izinja zabo zihlasele umntwana wabo "ngaphandle kwesizathu" ... kufuneka isenze sicinge. Kwezi meko kulungile ukuzibuza ukuba umntwana wayesenza ntoni kwizilwanyana, kwaye ukuba aba sele bekhankanyiwe ngaphambili babehleli kakuhle xa babeziinjana. Kutheni ndisitsho nje? Kuba kukholelwa ukuba izinja zinokutsalwa ngemisila yazo kwaye zincamathele iminwe yazo emehlweni kunye / okanye empumlweni ngokungathi ayikho enye into, kodwa le yimpazamo enkulu.
Ukuhlalisana okuhle kuhamba ngokuhlonipha izinja. Ukuba akukho mbeko kungakho uhlaselo.
Ngaba uhlaselo lunokuthintelwa?
Ewe kunjalo. Kwaye ndicebisa ukwenza oku kulandelayo:
- Hlalisani iinjana. Apha ichaza indlela yokwenza.
- Bakhuphele ngaphandle kwaye uhambe umthambo yonke imihla, ubuncinci kathathu / ngemini.
- Basa kugqirha wezilwanyana naninina xa befuna, ingakumbi ukuba siyarhana ukuba bayagula.
- Baphathe ngentlonipho, umonde nothando. Musa ukubaphatha kakubi.
- Qonda ulwimi lwakho lomzimba ukunxibelelana ngcono nabo.
Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku beliluncedo kuwe.