Inja inoboya esichitha naye izikhathi ezimnandi. Uyakwazi ukusenza simoyizele nsuku zonke, asinikeze uthando oluningi ngaphandle kokucela noma yini, futhi asenze sikujabulele ukuphila. Kuyadabukisa kakhulu ukuthi isikhathi sakhe sokuphila sifushane kakhulu kunesethu, ngoba kulula kakhulu ukuthi abe ngumngane nomngane wethu omkhulu. Futhi akekho umuntu ofuna ukuvalelisa kubathandekayo bakhe.
Ngeshwa, lowo ngumzuzu sonke esiphila nezinwele okufanele sidlule kuwo, kungekudala noma kamuva. Kepha, Ungasho kanjani inja? Ungathi kanjani kuvalelisa futhi ngasikhathi sinye udlulise lonke uthando lwethu?
Wazi kanjani ukuthi ukufa kwenja kuyasondela?
Impilo yenja ingalulwa, ngokwesilinganiso, phakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 nengu-16. Izinja ezinkulu zinesikhathi sokuphila esifushane kunezinja ezincane, kodwa zonke zibonisa cishe izimpawu ezifanayo njengoba zikhula, phakathi kwako ukulahlekelwa isifiso sokudla nesisindo, ukungabi nentshisekelo yokudlala, izinkinga zokuhamba ngenxa yesifo esithinta amalunga (i-arthritis noma i-osteoarthritis, isibonelo), ukunganaki, nokubukeka kwezinwele ezimpunga (izinwele ezimpunga) ikakhulukazi ebusweni .
Lapho sisola ukuthi umngani wethu akaphilile, kumele simyise kudokotela wezilwane ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ozoyihlola futhi asinikeze ukuxilongwa okungcono kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzoba yithuba okuzofanele sazi, okungaphezulu noma okuncane, ukuthi isikhathi esisele sisele kangakanani, into ezosisiza ukuzilungiselela.
Ngingavalelisa kanjani enja yami?
Akulula ukuvalelisa kumuntu owaziyo ukuthi usalelwe amasonto noma izinyanga ezimbalwa kuphela ukuthi aphile, kepha kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi sizisebenzise ngokugcwele zonke izikhathi okusamele sihlale ndawonye. Inqobo nje uma umzimba wakhe ukuvumela, singamyisa ezindaweni lapho athanda ukuya khona kakhulu.
Ekhaya, sizoyimosha. Sizokunikeza ukutotosa okuningi, futhi sizokuvumela ukuthi ube lapho ufuna khona. Kubaluleke kakhulu futhi ukuthi asihlale naye isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka.
Lapho isikhathi sesifikile, yize kusilimaza kabi, kunconywa kakhulu ukuthi sibe naye ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukuthi simnikeza amathoyizi athile nokuthi asimkhombise ukuthi sikhona. Yebo, yilokho azokufuna kakhulu: ukubona umndeni wakhe.
Lapho ekugcineni kungasekho kumele sidlule kule duel. Ngasinye sinesigqi saso. Okungasisiza kakhulu ukukhuluma nemindeni yethu nabangane. Ukuveza ubuhlungu kuzosisiza sizizwe singconywana.
Kuningi, isikhuthazo esikhulu.
Ngibhekene nesimo esibuhlungu kakhulu, inja yami eneminyaka engu-8 igula ngomdlavuza, odokotela bezilwane abasitshela ukuthi yinto yesikhathi, uyinja ethandwa kakhulu ekhaya, ngoba wayehlala eyingxenye ebalulekile Umndeni, manje njengoba sengazi ukuthi uyagula nokuthi kwesinye isikhathi uzongishiya, engikufunayo nje ukusebenzisa sonke isikhathi asisele naye, ngeshwa ngisebenza usuku lonke, kepha uma ngifika ekhaya angisebenzi Ngifuna ukuhlukana naye, ungibona ngobuso obudabukisa kakhulu. Ngiyazi ukuthi wayengumngane omkhulu engangihlanganyela naye izikhathi ezingakholeki, kunzima kakhulu ukwamukela ukuhamba kwakhe. Ngikholwa ukuthi awekho ngisho namagama noma umzuzu wokukwazi ukuvalelisa kumuntu othandwa kangaka.